SubhanAllah!! I was literally just ranting to someone about alot of the points that are mentioned in this Mustfah Hosny lecture ( I attached it below), moments before I came across this lecture... I loveee when that happens humdAllah!!
So I was ranting about the following things (you will see the connection to the lecture)
Rant :
The Arab concept of "Aib" shame and how this affects what you try to do for the sake of Allah...
For an example, my parents know I am in the Masjid, but the arabs around me dont know so when I come home at 11 pm its like oh look at her..blabla, this "worry" of what people will think of me even though I know my inetions is something that comes from the shytan. Its a battle with the shytan who wants you to stop going to the masjid, or that meeting or that lecture.
You cannnnnnnt let him convince you that you should stop going to the Masjid, MSA, etc because of what people will think or say about you, because this lady thinks you are trying to get married, and this one thinks you are a "Sayiaah" another stupid arab concept for girls who go out alot !!!
Rant : Everything is about marriage!
When people see a young women or man active in the masjid they assume they are just trying to get married (so annoying!)...
There are some youth who are in this msa meeting,that lecture, all these youth committees, and that volunteering event but than they disappear after they get married! It makes you question are we doing what we do to get married ( we all seem to fall into this which is OKAY, because it is a HALAL intention).
I alwaysssss find it very interesting how the the the very first Hadith of an nawi is about intentions and how the mans intention was for marriage and thats what he was rewarded for! The Prophet knew people would intend to do stuff for marriage why else would he teach this Hadith.
If going to the masjid,lectures, events and everything else is keeping you away from your role as a wife than i understand but I'm sure if you put Allah first and working for HIS home as your priority He will place barakaa in your time and barakaa in your own home. No one can argue against this theory.
Heres the Mustfah Hosny lecture that was so on point in response to my rants and he also covers other stuff like facing negativity from people when you are trying to do good.
كلمة - الحلقة 28 - خيرًا تعمل شرًا تلقى - مصطفى حسني
Todays word is about "Good work, but negative reactions" (like bad reactions from people, negtaivity!)"
Between you and Allah there should be iklhas: sincerity when you are trying to do good work.
You do whatever good for the sake of Allah. Oh Allah I am your slave, I want to please You.
Sometimes you do something good and say you are doing this for the sake of Allah, and you dont find the postive response you are looking for from the people, or you can be successful in this test and say it doesnt matter what people think I did this for the sake of Allah, and Allah will make you of the "muhsineen" good doers, the ones who were best with Allah, " Inaa Allah maa al muhsineen" Indeed Allah is with the good doers. Or you can fail this test and say because I did not find the positive reaction I was looking for from the people, than I am going to treat people badly and this will ruin your manners, and your iklhas sincerity, and that your action was not for the sake of Allah to begin with. For this reason Allah puts a person in this test so they can think am I doing this for the sake of Allah or not?? But if you have patience (with negativity from others) than you have achived ikhlas, sincerity.
"And whatever good you put forward for yourselves - you will find it with Allah" 73:20 Quran
It is better in this dunya, and even greater in the after life..
I know a story of a person who used to work very hard in his company. And because he is so nice, his boss used to throw extra work on him , but the worker never complained. Once he was leaving from the Masjid, and he came across his friend from a very long time ago who was in the same college as him, his friend asked him where have you been, I am looking for an employee. And than he took him to work at his company in which his status was raised, people respected him, the work load was light and basic. This story can be a simple one for the one who used to work very hard but didnt find a good response from his company, but then Allah gave him much more because
"Indeed, he who fears Allah and is patient, then indeed, Allah does not allow to be lost the reward of those who do good." Quran Surat Yusuf aya 90
(Personal note, subhanAllah this aya he quotes is from Surat Yusuf, right before he quoted it I keept thinking about Prophet Yusufs story and how Allah raised his status from a prisoner to king!!)
If you did something for the sake of Allah, Allah will not forget you.
I know another story of a girl who was very patient with her parents who used to always fight with her, and then Allah sent her a very good hausband who was kind and caring to her. He changed her life of fights and misery to giving and caring.
If you ever do something good for sure no doubt you will find it with Allah... He will provide for you in this life and the afterlife.
I have a challenge for you, what do you think of forgiving someone so Allah will forgive you?
What do you think of doing something good for someone who is bad to you but still do good. Allah will see that good of you.
Arent there times when Allah brings us good and He sends us naaim (gifts, blessings) even though we acted wrong.
Sometimes we know we are not doing good, but Allah continues to send us His blessings and gifts. Would you like it if Allah stoped sending you good because of your bad actions?
Dont stop doing good even if you see bad from people! Do the good for the sake of Allah, you will become sincere,
