After months of talking to people, asking for their advice, seeking for their support and getting nothing I expected, I reached the point where I can ignore people who do not provide me with the support I need, because I have Allah listing to me showing me His Signs as He shows me what is best,noooooo one can replace the assurance Allah can provide you with, , Allah is my Rabb, He is the One we make duaa to, He is the One that asks us to recite the ayas of Surat A Faitha in every raka tha ayas of
"It is You we worship and You we ask for help"
In our culture we are taught that it is "aib" or shameful for women to initiate marriage to men, but it is only out of ignorance and fear that we are accepting this and forgetting about the greatest example, role model within our life, the person we are supposed to love more then our parents, his name is Prophet Muhmmad and his first marriage was not a result of him approaching Khadjah, but rather SHE hes boss is the one who initiated the best love story of our ummahs time. This is our sunnah, this love story was just not something to look upon from far, this story has a purpose, everything Allah teaches us has a purpose,. Our culture tends to make us forget to make us forget about the purpose of this story, the lesson , the FACT that women can propose the idea of marriage to a man.
Shytan makes it easy for people to fulfill their desires through dating but he tricks us into thinking that it is haram or not approaite for a Muslim women to approach a man in marriage.
Khadjah you are the wife of the best man that ever lived, you did not hesitate to send your message of proposal to the Messenger of Allah.
Khadjhah you asked for the best of mankind, so why should I be shy to ask for anyone less?
One of the worst things we can do to ourselves is make our nafs and desire go through so much hardship when Allah has given us the means. Allah created desire, but He created marriage. Allah creates man, and He also created Law. He created the Laws of life within the Quranic texts, He gave us the best human example to follow Prophet Muhmmad alhyee al saltoo wa salaam.
I have no idea why as single Muslims we make it complicated , if I am not looking to just date the man, and I actualy want to marry him, why should I put my nafs through hardship? Everything in our religion is EASY, we are the difficult ones.
The single people within our lack knowledge, tawkull (trust), and confidence. We have a problem, an underlying problem of fear mixed with low self confidence. We don't expect the best despite our good intentions. If your ineenntion is to please Allah, then don't worry, don't fear, yes fear for the shytan interfering and be veryyyyyy mindful of the shyatn but just keep remembering Allah, remember Allah, ask Him for Help, tell Him what you are seeking, if you are not seeking a haram relationship and you are seeking to complete half of your deen, make lots of duaa, seek Allah, consult Allah, say BimsAllah,renew your intentions, and just do it, and whatever is the outcome remember that
"And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allah will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allah has set a measure for all things" Quran
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