I Like him! Marriage, Efforts, & Approaching him : RePost

Love this post, one of my most viewed,
http://hudawritess.blogspot.com/2012/05/marriage-efforts-approaching-him.html

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

I Like him! Marriage, Efforts, & Approaching him

How many times have you heard the following statement:

"I like him, but how do I tell him?!"
 (halal way-with marriage intention)

You like this amazing guy, or possibly just admire him, you see him everywhere you go, or maybe that one time at that event, and you notice he has everything your looking for, or thats what you thought, you want to tell him, but you cant, you want to start a conversation in a non-haram way, should you CC your dad in an email, add him on facebook, or should you tell his best friend, ? You really want to get your message across, but you dont know what to do.

What type of efforts should you put alongside with your duaa?

How do we approach marriage?

No one knows....because there is no one answer fits all for this type of situation..

All I know for now is that you can make some duaa, and Inshallah if Allah wants it He will make it happen, but at the same time I was taught that with duaa, you must put in effort.

I was taught by I.Elfahymoui that,

1.Pre-requisites to get the help of Allah you have to put effort first

2. Do everything in your power to get what you seek, if you prepare correctly you will get it.

3.If you want something good in this dunya then put forth towards it.

4.Istkhara is a form of tawkal, you dont pray it with doubts.
5.Tawkal is not the idea of giving up, it is a proactive attuide. It is the attuide of 'Il will go full esteem ahaed and I will not worry.Push forward all you have and if there are roadblocks dont worry. Allah opens up the way for those who have yaqn (Certanity).

So you cant just make duaa that Allah will get you married to this amazing guy, you have to put effort right? And you have to have tawkal (trust),yaqn(certanity) and make salaat istghara ?

So you want that amazing guy? You really want to marry him? Make tawkal, and go full-esteem ahead! But how? You want to keep it halal, you dont want to break the muhram rule!
http://hudawritess.blogspot.com/2012/03/protect-me-baba-guardian-rule.html
 

The question is in the siution of approaching marriage,
what type of halal efforts should we put in?

 

Im sure you have meet someone with the same question

  I have heard of alot of stories about this whole "how do I approach him" kind of issue.

 No doubt telling someone you like them is one of the most exciting but hardest things
to do and how do you do it without displeasing Allah?
 

There are so many stories  of Muslims goin through this journey to find thier spouse, there is no "one way" to find your spouse, there is no "one person" to go to if you are interested in him, there is no prescribed way on how to "put efforts".

The most you can do for now in the most halal way is make duaa.