Effortless Dawaa Hijab, Everyone Loves The Hijab

 

Dawah is toooooo easy with hijab, its like you don't even have to try and people are coming to you asking youuuuuu about yourrrrr hijab.

Its sooooooo cool when a non Muslim loves your hijab!

I had three hijab moments at work this week.

 

One of my students from last semester came to me for advising for this semester, and she told me how she loves the hijab and she wants to try it. I promised her I would get her one! This is exciting, everytime a non Muslim talks to me about the hijab I am wearing I just love my hijab even more.

 

 

I was wearing one of my nice hijabs with a nice matching sweater and my co worker stopped me to tell me how she loves the way I dress and how I match my hijab with my outfits.

 

 I was in the bathroom on a different floor at work to make wudu because its hard to make wudu in the bathroom with lots of people, so then I had my hijab off thinking no one really comes to this bathroom. Someone walked in and then I quickly put the hijab back on, when she saw me putting back on she started to tell me how I have beautiful hair (despite the fact that I thought my hair looked messy) and why I would cover it, this actually happened a couple of times when I showed my co workers pictures without hijab, they are just like whyyyy would you cover! Anyways  this lead to a 15 minute conversation about hijab, and how I love hijab and why I wear hijab.

 

Bright Faces, Light Faces, Beautiful

 

I love this ayah, such a beautiful scene!

 

 Sometimes people describe other people in this dunya as those of whom their faces are filled with light, subhanAllah I always wonder how true this concept is! I think the most beautiful people are those who have this light to them and it is a light that is usually reflective of their beautiful eman  character, and huge smiles.

 

 This is a beautiful duaa  for light that we are encouraged to read when going to the Mosque,

 

	‘O Allaah, place within my heart light, and upon my tongue light, and within my ears light, and within my eyes light, and place behind me light and in front of me light and above me light and beneath me light. O Allaah, bestow upon me light.’

Love Notes, Al Maghrib Notes, Love is A Sign, Surat Ar Rum

Today was the first day of the Al Maghrib Class "Love Notes" Sheikh Yasir.

Before I began this post I didn't even realize the amazing lesson I just took from this ayah Sheikh Yasir mentioned, subhanAllah.

Aside from all of the talk about marriage, love, and etc within the class, my favorite part of the class was something that is not usually mentioned when this ayah is quoted. 

Everyone has probably heard the following ayah from Surat Ar Rum, 31:

And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find peace  in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.

Sheikh Yasir said when you go home, look up the whole surah and read the ayahs before and after this aya http://quran.com/30/18-24.

In these other ayahs Allah talks about His Signs such as "lightening  ,   rain from the sky, sleep , the creation of the heavens and the earth  , diversity of your languages,   brings to life the earth after its lifelessness,   created you from dust" and much more (please read the ayat!)

 This part was amazing to me because I love learning about Allahs Signs and to see this concept of love, affection, mercy and the bringing together of husband and wife as a "Sign" to contemplate upon, this is how I hope to view my marriage inshAllah, as a miracle from Allah, as something to contemplate upon which leads you to remembrance of Allah, ya Allah

Even love must be contemplated upon, just as we contemplate upon the other amazing creations of Allah such as our own creation, the earth, the sky, the sunset. Love should make us say "subhanAllah" not just oooolalalaaa.

Its The Season, Trees, Leaves, SubhanAllah

I finally got to to go the State Park to enjoy the season!

New Jerseys known as the "Garden State", so go on a trip to see those beautiful trees subhanAllah.

 

 

Just thinking of what is said in one of the duaas sheikh Mishary says "And He knows how many leaves there are". We cant even count how many leaves are in one tree subhanAllah. This is again a reminder of His Infinite Knowledge, and how "He Knows that which you don't know". 

 

Here are some pictures

 

 

 

 

A dream and a duaa, tools to success

"A dream and a duaa, tools to success"

 

 

 

 I teach a class called "College Success Skills" and everytime I finish teaching I think to myself how I am not really teaching them the real tools to success.
 

I cant teach anything that has to do with religion within the class but subhanAllah religion provided me with the TOOLS to success.

 

AlhumdAllah thanks to Islam, I was never distracted with drugs,dating,drinking, rather I always had dreams and duaas in my life which keep tme going to where I am today alhumdAllah, its just takes a dream and duaa!!

Took A NonMuslim To Mosque, Showed Me Appreciation and Peace!

 

Today at my masjid there was a college fair for the school, and I decided to attend because I knew one of my former supervisors from my alumni college would be there since I used to work in Admissions! All of them know me very well and were my mentors so whoever I saw I knew would be good to see!

 

I went to the fair and I found my supervisor whom I consider as one of my mentors. I will always remember when I was about to graduate I gave him the Quran, his reaction was AMAZING, he was sooooooo thankful and excited, he said I didn't know I was allowed to read this, this is so cool!

AlhumdAllah!

 

Today he was at my masjid! You know how excited I was? After he was done with his work I told him I was going to give him a grand tour of the mosque.

MashAllah my mosque is huge, its 4 floors, we were on the top floor for the college fair, and under the main floor for the prayer area there was town hall meeting going on with the mayor and the community! MashAllah.

 

So I took him to the main floor where we pray, I told him he had to take off his shoes, he took them off, he said to me I never went into a mosque this is very exciting.

 

As we entered the Mosque which was a little empty, he just stood there and took a glance as if he was somewhere amazing, I couldn't help but think subhanAllah he is at peace! He didn't even walk around he just stood and stared around, and then he said how the mosque even smells really nice (it was the smell of insticts, and to be honest I never noticed that smell !). He was more peaceful and calm then most of us when we walk into the mosque. Its amazing how a non Muslim can teach you to appreciate your religion, to show you what peace looks like! SubhanAllah what an experience, alhumdAllah.

 

Missing The Beach, Enjoying The Fall!! SubhanAllah

 

I was sad that I wouldn't be able to enjoy the amazing beach, waves, sand, and sunset for a while as Fall came through, but subhanAllah the colors of the leaves are AMAZING subhanAllah!!! I live in the "Garden State" and so alhumdAllah there are trees all over. There is a dua where Shiekh Mishary says "And He knows the amount of leaves". Just thinking of this and thinking of counting the amount of leaves on one tree is a reminder of how Magnificent Allah is ya Allah!
 

The idea that the countless number of leaves, the countless gallons of water in the sea, the sun, the moon, the countless numbers of stars, all of these things we cant even count or sometimes see are repeating with us "SubhanAllah"
 

SUBHANALLAH

I actually learned this through Maher Zains song "SubhanAllah" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZWqs-CGL-Y

 

I Like him! Marriage, Efforts, & Approaching him : RePost

Love this post, one of my most viewed,
http://hudawritess.blogspot.com/2012/05/marriage-efforts-approaching-him.html

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

I Like him! Marriage, Efforts, & Approaching him

How many times have you heard the following statement:

"I like him, but how do I tell him?!"
 (halal way-with marriage intention)

You like this amazing guy, or possibly just admire him, you see him everywhere you go, or maybe that one time at that event, and you notice he has everything your looking for, or thats what you thought, you want to tell him, but you cant, you want to start a conversation in a non-haram way, should you CC your dad in an email, add him on facebook, or should you tell his best friend, ? You really want to get your message across, but you dont know what to do.

What type of efforts should you put alongside with your duaa?

How do we approach marriage?

No one knows....because there is no one answer fits all for this type of situation..

All I know for now is that you can make some duaa, and Inshallah if Allah wants it He will make it happen, but at the same time I was taught that with duaa, you must put in effort.

I was taught by I.Elfahymoui that,

1.Pre-requisites to get the help of Allah you have to put effort first

2. Do everything in your power to get what you seek, if you prepare correctly you will get it.

3.If you want something good in this dunya then put forth towards it.

4.Istkhara is a form of tawkal, you dont pray it with doubts.
5.Tawkal is not the idea of giving up, it is a proactive attuide. It is the attuide of 'Il will go full esteem ahaed and I will not worry.Push forward all you have and if there are roadblocks dont worry. Allah opens up the way for those who have yaqn (Certanity).

So you cant just make duaa that Allah will get you married to this amazing guy, you have to put effort right? And you have to have tawkal (trust),yaqn(certanity) and make salaat istghara ?

So you want that amazing guy? You really want to marry him? Make tawkal, and go full-esteem ahead! But how? You want to keep it halal, you dont want to break the muhram rule!
http://hudawritess.blogspot.com/2012/03/protect-me-baba-guardian-rule.html
 

The question is in the siution of approaching marriage,
what type of halal efforts should we put in?

 

Im sure you have meet someone with the same question

  I have heard of alot of stories about this whole "how do I approach him" kind of issue.

 No doubt telling someone you like them is one of the most exciting but hardest things
to do and how do you do it without displeasing Allah?
 

There are so many stories  of Muslims goin through this journey to find thier spouse, there is no "one way" to find your spouse, there is no "one person" to go to if you are interested in him, there is no prescribed way on how to "put efforts".

The most you can do for now in the most halal way is make duaa.

Tuition Payment, From Not Enough Money To To Much, Only Allah Provides, Trust

 

 

"And whoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him"

 

I loveeeee when I feel poor, but I put my trust in Allah, and I think of the ayah on how Allah provides from sources you don't know of" and then I actually see money come from no where. SubhanAllah this is the feeling of being content with what you have and trusting in Allah. This is how feeling rich feels! Rich feelings in the trust of Allah and Allahs plan for you alhumdAllah!

 

For the past couple of weeks I have been trying to save money to place more money towards my monthly tuition and I was worried but then I keept thinking to myself Allah will provide me with the money somehow. During those weeks I also was very short on money like were talking less then $100.00 in my account but I still wanted to make my various donations even though I felt like I couldn't I still did because I knew Allah would provide me with something amazing.

 

Today when I went to pick up my check for the two weeks I have worked (which would have covered only half of my tuition) my supervisor was telling me how I forgot to pick up check from September. She was like how can you do that!? I just laughed it off, and then I realized wow! The check from September and this month would give me enough money to pay my tuition! SubhanAlllah!! My supervisor thought it was bad that I had forgotten my check, but in my head I was thanking Allah for this beautiful blessing!!

 Now I not only have enough for my full tuition but I even have some left over money! Its amazing and not because I got the money, but because of the process.
AlhumdAllah,  just trust in Allah but don't forget to do your part!

And don't forget every American Dollar bill says "In God we trust!!!"

 

 

Men Love Hijab! Project #MenLoveHijab

 

 

Today while studying in a coffee shop I saw a brother I haven't seen for months in the Masjid. While we were catching up on masjid events such as todays breast cancer walk (mashAllah over 70 Muslims walked!). Then he started talking about his view of hijab and how he wants his wife to wear hijab because as a man he would get jealous of other men who would look at his wife. He said hijab is good for the lady wearing it and for her husband as it tells other men to respect her. Although I didn't show it , as a hijabi listing to a brothers view on his appreciation for hijab made me appreciate hijab even more!

 

 I later told these two girls that were with me about this conversation, and another past conversation I had with my non Muslim co worker who was asking me why some Muslim women cover fully and some wear makeup, tight clothes, etc. I learned so much from this conversation, for an example I was wearing flipflops and my nails were pink, he started to ask me if we were allowed to show our feet, then he told me how men are attracted to toes, I didn't believe it in the past but now I do!

 

InshAllah we want to start a project where we interview men (Muslim and NonMuslim, married or single, young and old) on their opinion of hijab to increase hijabi and non hijabis appreciation for hijab!

 

I think with the rise of hijabi "fashion" bloggers, Youtube videos, and promotion of everything that does not compile with hijab its time we offer an alternative a creative solution to this trend.

 

 We think we have to wear extra makeup, flip flops, tight clothes all in efforts to attract the men but once you talk to them about hijab,modesty, and etc their views will make you love your hijab even more!

 

 This project is to help raise awareness about the BEAUTY of simple hijab! I am very excited about this project, and I think anyone can contribute. 

 

About three years ago I came across this Mustfah Hosny video in which he talks to the really good looking "Mr.Egypt" and I was amazed at this mans beautiful words in which he appreciates the hijab and talks about dating and everything of that. The questions within this video is similar to what we can do! I think that video motivated me when I was younger,

 

Here is the English text of this video with this cutie!

 

Part 1:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dFUaq2aBkQo

 

 

Mustfah Hosny: Why don't you have a girlfriend?

 

Ibrahim:

Firstly because there is nothing in our religion which allows us to date and have girlfriends.

 

Also any girl you date and you are not going to marry you are only hurting her and yourself. You hurt her because she is like your sister who you wouldn't want anyone to date and leave. You hurt yourself because you lose your self with feelings, hope, your time, for a girl who is not your wife.

When you are dating and you are not following the Quran, you are wasting your time, feelings, with someone you know you are not even going to marry.

 

 

Mustfa Hosny: Last time someone asked if dating is the  only way someone can get married, but we said dating is not the way to marriage

 

Ibrahim:

Let me tell you something ask any shab (young man) even the ones who go to the masjid , any man who is dating a girl, 90percent of them do not marry the girl he dated. And he is sure that he will not marry the girl he is dating, but he still tells the girl he is going to marry her.

 

He just wants to waste his time with this girl he is dating, or he just wants a girl on his side but in the end he does not marry her.

 

In a mans view any girl who seems easy he will never look at her as a potential wife because he thinks oh she probably dated a lot of other men before me

 

Mustfah :

I want you to tell me about your dream wife,

 

Ibrahim:

In the beginning you mentioned the girl who is to religious, wears a huge hijab and you think the men don't like her, but I swear to Allah if a girl who is so beautiful is walking past him but when he see the girl that you described in the middle (the religious, fully covered huge hijab), this girl is more precious and valueable in his eyes then the other girl.

 

This is something I feel, because there can be the most beautiful girl standing next to me but then when I see the girl who is protective over herself walhee she is not closed or not wanted, the man who understand will agree that this girl is more precious and valuable.

 

When you think about why you don't date you think of what is waiting for you.

 

Think of a gift, you choose the best gift, you wrap it beautifully, you are so excited to give the gift and  when you give the gift it is the best thing

 

Mustfah:

 

Girls, these are the words of Mr Egypt, to the girsl who don't date, that you are very very very very valuable over the easy girls in the eyes of the men who have understanding like Ibrahim.  

 

 

 

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dFUaq2aBkQo.

 

Mustfah Hosny :Sometimes people say that men are scared to marry the religious girl with the big scarf because they might wear the hijab at home (Sarcasm as Mustfah laughs!)

 

Mr Egypt: The issue is that the man who is used to sitting in the middle of lots of girls no longer have limits, so in the first seating together you see the beauty of these girls right away,

 

The girl who is really good and covered she does not show off her beauty right away, she only shows her beauty to her husband. She does not waste her time looking for appreciation or approval of her beauty from every man, rather she is saving her beauty for a man who..

 

Mustfah Hosny answers : a man who deserves her

 

A lot of us think that the girl who is dressed in full hijab that is big is also like this at home.

I want to say something she didnt come as a baby with hijab she knows that there is style and beauty but she doesn't get tricked into shyatans plan.

 

Mustfah Hosny: Ibrahim (Mr Egypt) when someone like you is looking to get married tell me what do you look for.

 

Ibrahim: You know I want my girl to be tall and beautiful (Start laughing)..

My mother is an example of who I want my wife to be like, she knew how to take care of the kids, house, she was very kind, and everything good that a woman needs to raise a good family.

 

As many as the things a man doesn't want in his wife, he only wants that his wife

reminds him of Allah, there is nothing better then this, this is the most important, she takes care of her house and family, and she stands with her husband in the good and bad times.

This is the girl that if any shab (young man) wants to be successful and open his house and before anything to go to Jannah he has to choose a girl like this. At the same time this doesn't mean that the girl cannot be pretty but a girl in my eyes can be very beautiful but in his eyes she is not beautiful. This is from Allah to see beauty in someone. You will get used to the beautiful looks.